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I’ve always found the decades-old argument that “The Little Mermaid” is a feminist’s worst nightmare an interesting one. The main argument being: Ariel gives up her voice for a guy and a pair of long legs. It teaches girls that what they have to say doesn’t matter.

It’s one of those sarcastic, cynical synopses that is suppose to make the speaker seem witty and intelligent. Yet I feel like in this case… um, are we watching the same movie?

First of all, the supposedly feminist argument is to me a bit offensive in itself. Ariel is not interested in humans because of one cute guy. The crush pushes her to take action, yes, but that’s the romantic part, okay? Get over it, it’s a movie. It needs a plot.

It’s established in the very first scene that her main objective in life is to explore and learn. She never asks for or demands anything; she pays what she sees as a fair price (without knowing the full price) to achieve her goal. She makes the mistake of taking a short cut, but how many of us haven’t fallen into the trap of an alluring short cut?

By reducing Ariel as a girl with a crush, that person is labeling a woman as the very stereotype they seem to loathe. Don’t dismiss a girl because she’s a little girly. It doesn’t make her dumb or weak. It makes her human.

Or in this case, mermaid.

Anyway, if anything, the older I get the more I appreciate Ariel.

Yes, Ariel is reckless, selfish and entitled. But you can also describe Tom Cruise in “Top Gun” the exact same way, and no one accuses him of ruining the future of America’s little boys do they? The movie is about her paying dearly for those faults, and by the end she experiences something we commonly see in movies: character growth.

Ariel is reckless. But she is also curious, brave, headstrong, and smart. How many other stories are driven by a female protagonist who has an unquenchable thirst for knowledge? How tragic is it that there aren’t more?

She has a passion for learning about humans and actively pursues it despite the fact that everyone, including her loving family, basically tells her not to bother because she has a great voice. Not ONCE in the movie does Ariel show any interest in singing or performing, and so it’s interesting that while everyone in the movie (and for that matter the audience), seems to define her by her voice, Ariel clearly does not.

When Ursula asks for Ariel’s voice she of course hesitates, but it seems mostly out of shock over the strange price. She gives it up pretty quickly, and it’s clear that Ariel’s self-worth is not tied up in what others so often focus on. Sure, you can make the argument that Ariel succeeding without her voice is a metaphor for how unimportant women’s voices are, but they are discounting the fact that she still succeeded.

Eric doesn’t fall in love with Ariel because she has no voice, but in spite of it. Maybe you can judge them for not having the most intellectual conversations, but I like to think he was drawn to her spontaneity and curiosity, her spirit and kindness. Ariel didn’t have a voice, but that doesn’t mean she didn’t have a personality or opinion. In fact, I really love that when Ursula tells Ariel she has to make Eric fall in love with her, sans voice, Ariel’s basically like “You’re giving me 3 days? Psh, I’ll do it in 2.” That’s self-confidence every girl should have.

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Ariel is selfish. But is she? She doesn’t knowingly put her family in danger (again, she was just reckless with dire consequences). She clearly gained the respect and love of Sebatian and Flounder, and I don’t think anyone would say she wouldn’t do for her friends what they did for her. I see her as the type of person that would 100% support whatever her friends or family wanted to pursue. It’s just that this story isn’t about them. It’s about Ariel. She doesn’t think the world revolves around her – it does because this is her movie.

I would even go so far as to say Ariel shows some very selfless traits in the movie. When she flakes out on her sisters in the beginning of the movie because she’s treasure hunting, she expresses that her father and sisters will kill her once she realizes she’s missing the performance. Ariel doesn’t express any sadness about missing the performance herself, and it’s heavily implied that she’s really only doing it because her family wants her to, perhaps because it’s expected of her.

But like I said, is singing even something she cares about at all? Does anyone even ask her if it’s something she wants to do? She may love it, but it really doesn’t seem like she loves it as much as everyone else expects her to. Before Ariel fights with her father, there seems to be very little indication she was ever ill behaved or even very rebellious. Everyone, even Ariel herself, seems to view her as a flighty kind of girl, but she actually demonstrates a lot of determination and grit when she’s able to do what she actually wants to do. Making one mistake does not make a character trait.

Lastly, Ariel’s character traits are very consistent throughout the movie, and to criticize her actions for being unfeminist, you’re basically criticizing her for being herself. You’re the anti-feminist! Ha, just kidding. You’re probably just falling into the trap of thinking that a woman who doesn’t act like how you think she should means she’s doing it wrong. She’s not. No woman is when they’re trying to be the best version of themselves.

Ariel is a take-charge kind of person. She, and this is honestly amazing for a female character, does not just react to the world around her. She is the plot driver. Ariel isn’t just thrown into a situation and must somehow get out of it. She actively shapes her world, and shapes her own destiny.

Most awesomely, she saves Eric. Twice. Does Eric ever seem like some kind of macho man (and with eyes that pretty, how dare you even suggest it) who would be interested in a non-communicative bimbo? Or would he be like: hey, you’re a fucking badass, let’s get married?

As with all movies, it is what you make of it. You can see it as shallow and ill-intentioned. Or you can choose to see the best in it. I personally really like the music, so I think I’ll do the latter.

 

So I found something weird. It’s a Canadian show called “While The Men Watch,” which is a sports commentary webs series hosted by women who don’t know anything about sports.

Now, I’m one of those women who don’t know anything about sports, but, WHAT. and WHY?

Because the hosts,Lena Sutherland and Jules Mancuso (who are currently providing commentary for the Stanley Cup Finals) are providing commentary “that women want to hear,” and for them (and the people who employ them, and the CBC), that means commentary that has nothing to do with the game. Nothing. They are not even talking about the Stanley Cup Finals. They are barely talking about hockey.

First of all, I’m really confused with who the demographic is for this exactly? Women who watch sports? No, because then they’d want to hear actual commentary. Women who don’t watch sports? No, because then they’d be watching something else. Women forced to watch sports with their significant other? Well, I’m assuming they’d do what I do then, and just read a magazine. Men? This answer makes the most sense to me, actually.

Second of all, uh, offensive much? Just because I don’t like sports, along with a lot of other men and women… I just… is perpetuating this kind of stereotype even necessary? I think if you ask ANYONE if they think some women like sports – if they know a woman who follows a sport – the answer will be “yes.” Because, duh, some women do sincerely enjoy watching sports and why would they watch crap like this?

I’ll admit, I’ve done “girl” commentary before. I once went off on a long rant about how each team should be forced to play in a uniform matching their mascot (ie. The Lakers should play in snorkeling gear – because they both have to do with water.) It was just the crazy, mildly amusing ramblings of someone who was INCREDIBLY BORED and it no way would I ever want to subject a large audience to that kind of inane commentary.

I get the comedy in that kind of “so clueless it’s hilarious” commentary, but like fart jokes, I’m not sure it’s humor that should necessarily be encouraged by media organizations.

BUT, maybe this web series shouldn’t be a serious feminist issue and just taken as a form of entertainment? Poop jokes are still funny to some, after all.

The problem with this dismissive kind of excuse is that everything we see, hear, etc. does shape our subconscious view of the world. It may not change one individual’s mind, but the fact that this show exists can affect our society as a whole. One show saying women don’t get sports doesn’t do much, but seeing this belief reinforced over and over again can have a great affect.

Maybe female sports casters who notoriously face a lot of sexism in the industry will have a different perspective on whether this is bad/neutral for women.

Honestly, I’m still simply stuck on wondering who likes this show, and why?

I’ve been following press for the new HBO comedy “Girls,” which premiers this Sunday, and I’m trying hard to keep an open/neutral mind about it until I can actually watch it (darn all you TV reviewers and your earlier screeners!).

I initially watched the commercials with skepticism and have to admit it didn’t immediately draw me in despite the fact I am apparently the “right” demographic. If I were white and living in New York, “Girls” would probably be my life. Secretly I say to the TV, I too am a young, neurotic, overeducated and underemployed creative female, trying to live in a city that has no real need or want for her. Why do we do this to ourselves? What makes us think that anyone cares what we have to say at the ripe old age of 23?

Even the line so many critics love to quote comes back to highlight my own self-important perspective of the world.

“I’m the voice of my generation,” Lena Dunham’s character says in the season premiere. “Well I’m a voice of a generation,” she quickly self-corrects.

The simple line reminded me of my own ambition not too long ago of seeing myself as one day writing the script to the movie that will capture the collective experience of my generation. “The Big Chill” for Generation Millennials. A movie about middle-aged hipsters who grew up watching “Saved By the Bell” re-runs, and whose first boob sighting was Kate Winslet’s in “Titanic.” All the characters would be united by their secret, very un-hipster love of boy bands, and the newer boy bands, and then the new new boy bands (is it really a fad if it keeps refusing to die?). Yes, I’ve put a lot of thought into being the voice of a generation, or something like that, and unlike Lena’s character I wasn’t even high.

Has there ever been a generation as self-aware of its existence as ours? We call ourselves the “lost” generation and take turns having “quarter-live crises” in our group of friends. We know we’re probably a bit spoiled and entitled, yet can’t seem to shake the feeling that we deserve more than a 9-5 jobs (although in my experience jobs are more 8-6:30ish with no overtime pay).

I find that the most difficult lesson we 20-somethings are learning is that both success and failure do not come easy. Hard work will probably help you in the long run, but you can’t avoid the failures that come before that. “Stay in school as long as you can,” is the common advice we tell the lucky ones still in grad school.

It’s easy to generalize, and it’s easy to think you’re the only one struggling (or succeeding). Such a contradiction is only natural in a world where we’re hyper-connected in a social-media dominated society. “It hasn’t happened if it’s not on Facebook,” after all.

Anyway, what I mean to say is that I don’t really care if “Girls” represents me or my friends or whatever it’s meant to do. I mostly care if it’s good and if it’s funny. I actually think the more relatable you find it, the harder it may be to watch. I don’t particularly like having all my insecurities and awkwardness thrown back in my face. It’s one thing to bitch about it to your friends and have them sympathize, it’s another to watch it play out in one long, awkward sex scene.

On the other hand, I can’t help but cheer on the Girl Power. More realistic vagina on TV, I say. Take that “Two and a Half Men” writers!

I don’t know if “Girls” will be the voice of my generation, but as A voice? Sure, why not. “Girls,” I am looking forward to your point of view.

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How To Prevent A Sexual Assault

A Guide for Newbies:

  • Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks or try to get them really drunk in order to have sex with them.
  • When you see someone walking by themselves, don’t assault them.
  • Use the buddy system! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you’re in public.
  • Don’t forget… you can’t have sex with someone unless they are conscious.

I believe the statistics for sexual assault are astonishingly high***, which doesn’t surprise me, but what does surprise me is how much our point of view, and therefore the way we educate people, blames sexual assault on the victim just as much as the assaulter.

Allow me to get on my soapbox after the jump…

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